As Valentines day is rapidly approaching and most either cant wait to see their bae, or are hating life, I thought this would be the perfect time to touch on how to meet singles.
Getting out there and meeting people is somewhat uncomfortable for many. I know it’s a scary thought — leaving your couch, taking off your sweatpants, putting your Netflix binging on pause, and going out to meet people — but you have to do it!
We learn from movies and the media that women want to be hit on in cool and unusual places in a romantic and unique way. A lot the time when women do get approached in these places, they are easily creeped out. If you want to meet someone in a unique and fun way, then you have to be suave. You have to be confident, but not cocky. You have to be funny, but not over the top. Most importantly, you have to learn how to read her signals, and then go for it: ask for her digits (only text if you have iMessage) and ask her out on a date.
If you are ready to find a partner for a date, an event or for life, now is the time. Here are a few suggestions for looking for love in all the right places.
Speed Dating. Sign up for a speed-dating event in your area. This is a great way to have several mini dates in one night and expand your options of people to meet. It’s a safe environment and since everyone is there for the same purpose, it eases tension and anxiety of walking up to someone who may already be taken. This is the perfect chance to avoid the risk of getting cat fished.
Happy Hour. Happy Hour can be a great place to meet singles. More importantly, it’s a more appropriate setting and time of day to meet singles at a bar whom you may want to ask out on a date. Happy Hours in every city are crawling with lots of young singles. This is an excellent opportunity to meet many singles at once, without coming across as creepy.
Athletics. Let’s be honest: most of us simply aren’t active enough, and the thought of spending 30 minutes to an hour on a stationary bike or treadmill while every TV in the gym blares Fox News and Keeping Up With The Kardashians is more likely to make you want to bake a dozen cookies rather than get six-pack abs. One way to get some exercise – not to mention meeting new people – without driving yourself mad from boredom is to find your local amateur sports league. The friendly competition will encourage bonding and the endorphin rush that comes from exercise and victory puts everybody in a relaxed, outgoing mood.
The Mall. No one ever thinks of going to a hotel in the city that they live in, unless its Miami, NYC or LA. If you don’t think there are enough potential dates in your city you need to start checking for imports. The appeal of a hotel bar is that they are usually really nice. Catering to a variety of guests hotel bars tend to have great ambiance as well as great drinks, perfect for meeting singles. The other perk of a hotel bar is, unless it’s the best bar in town, you likely won’t run into anyone you know. You don’t ever have to worry about seeing the same people. AWKWARD!
Group Meetups. Join a hiking group, running team or wine tasting club. By interacting with local groups, you are expanding your circle of acquaintances and friends who share your same interests. Go to an event once a month or once a week. The more your engage, the better your chances increase of finding someone to connect with for friendship or more.
Public Transportation. This is a fun place to spark up a convo! There are different opportunities to chat it up while commuting or en route to your friend’s place. For example, if you have the same commute to work every day with a hottie, then strike up a conversation while you wait for the train, bus, etc. Don’t be shy to strike up a friendly conversation as a way to pass the time. I guarantee you this potential is probably just listening to EDM and checking Facebook and Instagram and probably hoping you’ll start chatting her up. However, since you are in such close quarters and there’s no easy exit route, definitely be aware of your creep levels. If she seems disinterested, back off. You don’t want to make anyone feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
The old saying of “putting yourself out there” is true. To find love you must be in a place where love can find you. Try the above list of places to increase your chances of meeting your plus one.
The world is your dating oyster, so live it up and take advantage of every opportunity, and please, for the love of God, try not to be a creep. If all else fails, and you can’t meet someone in the real world, you can always use a casual sex app like Justbang or Tinder. Happy dating!